About This Site Thank you for visiting. I was a member of a spiritually abusive Independent Fundamental Baptist Church for a little over 25 years. The focus of this site, therefore, is the issue of spiritual abuse and deception in the IFB churches. This site also has a secondary emphasis on other Christian churches, but will mostly focus on the IFB Denomination. Like others who have similar sites, the reason for concentrating on the Independent Fundamental Baptist Denomination is simply due to personal experience. Most Baptist churches are very similar to the IFB. Some are a little different and may be less strict or have different stances on scripture, but for the most part they are all very similar. I can really only speak from my experiences so that is why this site is singling out the IFB. Much of what you will read here comes directly from my personal experience.

When Marriage Is Miles Away

I quoted this verse from the NET version, then proceeded to write my own study notes on it, and was happily expounding on the liberating truth from it, then perhaps like a man who is still savoring the sweet taste of the verse, I thought let’s go to the KJV version with Strong numbers corresponding to the Greek text to try to squeeze out every bit of its life giving power, and I was shocked to read the part that bursted my bubble.

Though I had already worked out the true meaning of being “in the flesh” in Romans 7: Then I read your testimony and thought here’s another kindred spirit who knows the meaning of Hab 2: Like you I had a glimpse of grace through the writing of Max Lucado, especially Six Hours One Friday, but not until almost twenty years later that a friend I met 3 years ago on the Internet, Doug Olsen of myredeemer.

Since then I have become a prolific writer on my church’s website as vacsf.

What does the Church teach about married love?. Marriage is more than a civil contract; it is a lifelong covenant of love between a man and a woman. It is an intimate partnership in which husbands and wives learn to give and receive love unselfishly, and then teach their children to do so as well.

Unfortunately, just last year I was blindsided when someone I deeply loved, who I admired and effortlessly dated did what I though was the unthinkable. I was betrayed by a man I who adored me, who would never even think of hurting me and more importantly, would never be unfaithful to me. The worst part was I was told by a woman I did not know. I died inside immediately.

My spirit, faith and confidence perished all at once. It was hard to just breathe and walk let alone call a friend and cry harder than ever before. How would I smile again? How would I get back my positivity and confidence? Will I be able to trust people again especially men? Those were all questions among many others running through my head daily. Eventually I found the answers and in return found myself.

Song of Myself

Put it this way: There are many more. But each one of these is significant enough that if the person you are dating displays several or even one or two to a deep degree , they may not be emotionally or spiritually ready for marriage—regardless of how much fun it is to date them. But there are times when the giver will need to receive. For instance the giver gets really sick or is laid off, even though he or she provided the bulk of the income or just goes through a discouraging time and suffers things she has never known before, like depression or anxiety.

The FIFA World Cup was the 21st FIFA World Cup, an international football tournament contested by the men’s national teams of the member associations of FIFA once every four years. It took place in Russia from 14 June to 15 July It was the first World Cup to be held in Eastern Europe, and the 11th time that it had been held in Europe. At an estimated cost of over $ billion, it.

The Importance of an Affective Life Certainly, as the Lord tells us, one can become a source from which rivers of living water flow cf. Yet to become such a source, one must constantly drink anew from the original source, which is Jesus Christ, from whose pierced heart flows the love of God cf. Formation in Self-Giving The dynamic of family relations has a primary impact on the formation of younger generations.

This process requires appropriate pastoral action which is abundantly equipped with a knowledge imbued with Scripture and Catholic doctrine and provided with suitable educational tools. A proper knowledge of the psychology of the family will serve as an assistance in ensuring that the Christian vision might be effectively transmitted. Such an effort might already begin with the catechesis of Christian Initiation. This formation is also to highlight the admirable character of the virtue of chastity, since the virtue of chastity is understood to mean the integration of affections which fosters self-giving.

Weakness and Immaturity Many cultural tendencies exist in today’s world whose goal is to impose a sexuality without any limits and where all affective aspects are explored, even the more complex ones. The idea of emotional weakness is very timely; a narcissistic, unstable and changing affectivity does not help a person to achieve greater maturity.

The following cultural tendencies need to be firmly denounced: In this regard, couples are sometimes uncertain, hesitant and struggling to find ways to grow, many of whom tend to remain in the primary stages of their emotional and sexual life.

Long-Distance Love

Last month I posted some statistics on living together before marriage. Since then I have received a number of inquiries as to what the Bible says about living together. So in this post I would like to share some of the Biblical teaching about living together before marriage. This should not be surprising, because the Bible has some strong things to say about living together. God is a loving God, and he gives us his commands for our protection.

Those who choose not to live together before marriage will likely avoid many of the negative outcomes described in the earlier post.

So far, I’ve stayed away from the attachment parenting debate as much as possible, but I can’t get his words (or his sad face) out of my mind.

We need to start measuring something else, because we are creating a world full of people who have been wholly indulged and spent their time and talent creating excuses. St JD George There might actually be more than you realize, though it may take some sacrifices and changes to reap the rewards. GG Justifying fornication is not Catholic. James Marriage ends fornication, does it not? GG Confession is needed and a purpose of amendment, but that is not the only issue.

To defend fornication based on location or jobs is facile and insulting. Will amping up the efforts to marry off the Millenials in Catholic ceremonies help this? It is an interesting conversation, but I remain unconvinced. Nor is this even the policy of the Church: The Pope married several cohabiting couples and he did so quite publicly. Rome has said that priests who deny cohabiting couples marriage are to be corrected by their bishops. GG Let us stop with claiming Church teaching is suddenly inverted based on the Pope marrying a few couples.

NFP Basic Information

Share on Facebook Long-distance will not feel as real as same-city dating. How can you develop clarity about doing everyday life with them for the rest of your days if you never get to taste everyday life with them now in dating? The partial integration of a boyfriend or girlfriend into your life is undeniably helpful for imagining what the complete integration might be like. The costs were real and felt for us, but the benefits, especially for Christians, are as real and lasting. If you have friends that have done same-city dating, you likely have friends who have wrestled against sexual impurity.

If you are like most dating couples, you are looking for more than just a companion – you want a soul mate! The essence of a true soul mate relationship is that of deep spiritual connection. This dynamic book, Devotions for Dating Couples, offers guidance for deepening your commitment to God as individuals and as a couple.4/5(17).

At work in a deep wet hole, he had recklessly omitted to slab the walls of a drive; uprights and tailors yielded under the lateral pressure, and the rotten earth collapsed, bringing down the roof in its train. The digger fell forward on his face, his ribs jammed across his pick, his arms pinned to his sides, nose and mouth pressed into the sticky mud as into a mask; and over his defenceless body, with a roar that burst his ear-drums, broke stupendous masses of earth.

His mates at the windlass went staggering back from the belch of violently discharged air: Their shouts drawing no response, the younger and nimbler of the two—he was a mere boy, for all his amazing growth of beard—put his foot in the bucket and went down on the rope, kicking off the sides of the shaft with his free foot. A group of diggers, gathering round the pit-head, waited for the tug at the rope. It was quick in coming; and the lad was hauled to the surface. The crowd melted with a “Poor Bill—God rest his soul!

Such accidents were not infrequent; each man might thank his stars it was not he who lay cooling down below. And so, since no more washdirt would be raised from this hole, the party that worked it made off for the nearest grog-shop, to wet their throats to the memory of the dead, and to discuss future plans. On hearing his mate’s report he had sunk heavily down on a log, and there he sat, a pannikin of raw spirit in his hand, the tears coursing ruts down cheeks scabby with yellow mud, his eyes glassy as marbles with those that had still to fall.

He wept, not for the dead man, but for himself. This accident was the last link in a chain of ill-luck that had been forging ever since he first followed the diggings. He only needed to put his hand to a thing, and luck deserted it. In all the sinkings he had been connected with, he had not once caught his pick in a nugget or got the run of the gutter; the “bottoms” had always proved barren, drives been exhausted without his raising the colour.

The Husband List: 12 Non-Negotiables

In a world of unbelievably amazing technology, this little book will introduce you to the novel idea that something valuable can be gained through something that is simply, well, natural. You will learn the basics of human fertility and gain an understanding of the methods of NFP. If you are married, or planning to marry, hopefully this introduction will inspire you to learn one of the methods of NFP by contacting an organization listed under Resources.

Learning an NFP method is an important step to strengthen a marriage. Marriage is a gift from God.

Being cheated on was a terrible experience yet it catapulted me to the most beautiful journey in finding and exploring my empowered self. Life is a big adventure, but at the end of the day it’s all about what we make of the experiences along the way.

In the book of Mark, a blind man had his friends take him to Jesus to be healed for his eyesight. We had to be specific. It also gives you heightened discernment in dating situations. The list keeps your standards in check and can help you quickly discern whether or not that guy gets a second date. It protects your heart against unnecessary wear and tear. After I made mine, I met my husband 2 months later and not only was he every single character trait on that list, he was more.

Now, each one of your lists is going to have unique things according to who you are, your quirks, likes and dislikes. But there are some fundamental traits that God wants to be non-negotiables. Choosing who you will partner the rest of your life with is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. He is a practicing believer.

Long Distance Relationships and Why They DO Work!